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He Saved My Ass

I GUESS YOU ARE OFFENDED. SOME OF YOU ARE MAD RIGHT NOW, SOME DISSAPPOINTED IN ME AND SOME ARE JUST PLAIN CURIOUS OF WHAT I HAVE GOT TO SAY NOW. If this title was written on a scroll back in Jesus’ day, the reader would expect a story on how Jesus rescued a donkey. In this present times, many will read the rest of this simply because you are a little offended by the title or you are straight up disgusted by it and you are here to look for a way to paint me evil.

I understand.  I used to be just like you, but I’ll get to that later.

Christians love a good sin to rally against. We gather together like angry villagers in a monster movie, sharpening pitchforks and lighting torches, as if Jesus Christ Himself needs us to rid the world of all evil. I have witnessed this on several occasions when I teach the word or when I try to teach people basic principles of the word.

I want to talk about “cuss words” and the unwarranted hype they accumulate.  “Christians shouldn’t cuss” is a pretty widely accepted belief, but the question I want to ask here is this:
“What (the heck, in the world) is cussing?”

I frankly do not believe in an inherently evil use of words outside of the heart in which they are spoken from.  One of the Ten Commandments forbids taking the Lord’s name in vain. (Although we are in the new covenant and that Ten Commandments is not really as much of a concern as it was in the old but that’s a topic for another day.) One can only discern whether a person has spoken God’s name in vain by having a feel for the person’s heart-motivation behind what was said.

Here’s an example of how someone’s heart can determine whether or not one’s words are good:
  1.  Responding with fondness to the news of a best friend getting a sweet new ride for Christmas:  “I hate you.”  (not a sin)
  2.  A friend made you feel really bad, so in order to retaliate and make him/her feel bad as well, you say, “I hate you.” (sin).
The following list represents additional reasoning as to why there is no evil in mere words alone:

Reason 1:  Synonyms’ fallacious inequality
Example: The term “screw that is relatively acceptable in Christian circles, while f_** thatis not.
Fallacy corrected: They mean exactly the same thing.  Thus, either the former is a sin to say or the latter is not a sin to say.

Reason 2:  Evolution of cuss words
Example:That sucksused to be adamantly scorned by parents in my generation. I am an 80's baby. Now, I’m sure that most of these same parents have said in recent years that our economy sucks.
Fallacy corrected:  Given this trend, does that mean that formerly sinful words can evolve into harmless words?  The answer is Nope.  All forms of sin have always been sin, and always will be sin.  Sin is always committed against an eternal God that is the same today, yesterday and forever (Hebrews 13:8). The same way there was a time being Gay was considered extremely unacceptable and right now some people think we have evolved to accepting it. Does it change the standard of God’s word ? No. every sin is sin. Always has and always will be, none is greater than the other.

Reason 3:  Jesus
Example: The bible says that people’s self-righteousness is like filthy menstrual rags.”  He used this terminology because it was the most accurate description of what self-righteousness really is. The term “filthy rags” is quite strong. The word filthy is a translation of the Hebrew word iddah, which literally means “the bodily fluids from a woman’s menstrual cycle.” The word rags is a translation of begged, meaning “a rag or garment.” Therefore, these “righteous acts” are considered by God as repugnant as a soiled feminine hygiene product.(Isaiah 64:6).

I’m sure this phrase, back in the day, would have been just as offensive as your self-righteousness is like sh_t would be to folks in church today. Oh yes, it would have !!! So chill.

Matthew 15: 21-28 says "Leaving that place, Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon. A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, “Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is demon-possessed and suffering terribly.” Jesus did not answer a word. So his disciples came to him and urged him, “Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us.” He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.” The woman came and knelt before him. “Lord, help me!” she said. He replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.” “Yes it is, Lord,” she said. “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.” Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.

Imagine if it was in this generation and a Christian does this same thing that Jesus did, and calls an unbeliever a dog directly or indirectly. What would be your honest reaction? Dont lie now !! Or let’s imagine if your pastor did the exact thing? How do you think the woman would react? Facebook, Twitter and social media will be on fire. Trust me when I say someone will definitely bring out their phones and yell "worldstar !!!!" , record and then upload the video. Law suits will be flying from pillar to post in the name of Religious Hate Crime and all types of nonsense.

Fallacy corrected: Neither one of these expressions are sins in themselves.

So, what’s my point?  
Do I want to create a Christian culture of cussing?  Absolutely not; it’s actually pretty dumb when Christians flaunt cussing for the sake of sounding hip and edgy.  This topic is quite important to me because up until about the age of 25, when I encountered a person who professed to be a Christian, in the event that I heard him “cuss,” I concluded that at best he had backslidden, at worst, he was possessed by legions of demons.  Even writing this, I can’t believe I used to think this way.

First of all, someone’s salvation is not based on ANY work other than Jesus’ work on the cross, and Jay Ikwan, Snr doesn’t have jurisdiction in determining what words in the English language are evil, regardless of my skill in dividing the word of truth.

Secondly, it is fairly common for Christians to try and refrain from using words that borderline on cussing.  Unfortunately, they additionally create a whole Christian language on their own, totally aborting any words that mainstream culture is accustomed to, and simultaneously forming a Christian “replacement language” which greatly conflicts with Jesus’ efforts to relate to, befriend, and find common ground with unbelievers. The Bless you's, Shaloms, Halleluyahs which we use unneccesarily. I mean that’s why we are tagged as FREAKS and bigots. Its tiring.

Can you imagine calling someone on the phone and they pick the phone, next thing you hear is "Praise The Lord" instead of Hello ? We really need to grow up.
Thirdly, it actually burdens me when I hear folks pray that God would “clean up their language” and I hope they recognize the more important issues in their lives that God would like to clean up.  While I do not want to dismiss anything God would convict anyone of, in my humble opinion, my guess is He gets much more “heartburn” over us using discouraging words and making a regular habit of gossiping.

Outside of gossip, discouragement, lying, etc, I do indeed feel there are words in which the mere use of them can be considered evil almost all the time.  For example, the vulgar terminology for female anatomy, Calling women “Bitches and etc” is rarely acceptable in any contexts, and for good reason. Because almost 100% of the times these words are used it’s with a disrespectful, demeaning slant towards females.  This is just plain disrespectful and wrong, as is joking to a sweet old lady that her collards taste like sh**.

One may ask, “What if there is a word that I feel is ok, but others do not?”

I would respond by referencing scripture that forbids acting in a way that is a stumbling block to others.  These things that Paul says we must refrain from are not sins in themselves, but rather, sinful because they produce the temptation to sin in others around us.

The acceptability is clear then: we can act a certain way in front of some people while acting differently in front of others.

Some call this hypocrisy and living a double-standard, I call it being biblical and my stand is (1 Corinthians 8).  I certainly talk differently around my children and close friends – people who know my heart and I know theirs – than I do in front of strangers or around folks who would potentially be offended or not understand the hard truth. It is a journey.

With this being said, I have actually found that using some words that most Christians deem as foul can be the same words that, when used in front of unbelievers, have the capacity to destroy walls and lesson feelings of apprehension – which are all too common for unbelievers when they talk to us “Jesus freaks.”

My heart for this topic may seem unimportant and trivial to some, but I happen to believe this issue to be important and potentially critical for effective Christian evangelism.  I don’t necessarily need you to agree with me, but I do think it would be helpful for you to ask the following questions:
  1. Do you think someone is less moral and/or less spiritually mature if they say the word “Damn?”  What about “Darn?” that is popular with church folks ?
  2. Are you more concerned about people’s language being clean/polished around you than you are about their hearts being completely yielded to Jesus?
  3. Would you stop conversing with a “cusser” or even someone who says foul words in close proximity with our savior’s name, even when the potential is there for you to influence the depths of his or her heart with the love of Jesus?
  4. Does “unwholesome talk” (Ephesians 4:29) mean the use of specific words or does it mean dialogue that has the potential of destroying rather than building up?
  5. When Paul says he will be all things to all people, for the sake of the gospel (1 Corinthians 9:19-22), I wonder if that includes saying a word that is unacceptable in most Christian circles in order to find common ground with an unbeliever? it is silly to debate "petty social semantics" and I tell you this honestly as a student of the word.
I must say however, that in as much as I have revealed the truth here to the best of my ability ,this debate takes people too deep in the weeds, and is easily avoidable if you simply refuse to use this kind of language. BUT, we are argumentative creatures, set in our ways, and we like the idea of challenging norms because it gives us some introspective sense of significance, therefore we get debates like these.

However, I tell you the same thing the scripture says which is "Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.: Ephesians 4:29 . 

So my dear, Is your word edifying who is hearing it? As long it is edifying the hearer. That is what matters. It is not what you say but the intent and the effect.

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8

God bless you and never Forget, You are in the Refiner's Hands !!

I Love You
Jay Ikwan, Snr
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