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Unforgiveness : Your Silent Killer

“Forgive—only then will your heavenly Father…wipe your slate clean.” Mark 11:25 The Message Bible


How heavy is a glass of water? Well, that Depends On How Long You Carry It! A minute is no problem, and after an hour your arm might ache. But after 24 hours you’ll probably be in pretty bad shape! In each instance the glass Weighs Exactly the Same, but the Longer You Carry It the Heavier It Feels! And it’s the Same With Un-Forgiveness; it can get So Heavy that it Causes You Physical Pain! People will hurt you; that’s the reality of sharing this planet with others. Sometimes it’s intentional, other times they have no idea they even upset you, far less broke your heart. Does that mean you should go around pretending nothing’s wrong? No, the first step is to confront your feelings. And be honest, especially when the hurt is deep, because it’s even harder to forgive. That’s why you have to remember Jesus said, “Pray for those who mistreat you” (Luke 6:28 New International Version) When you do that something unexpected happens; Your Heart Softens and You Start Seeing Them Through God’s Eyes Instead of Your Raw Emotions! “If you have anything against someone, forgive—ONLY THEN will your heavenly Father…wipe your slate clean.” Warning: When You Sow Un-Forgiveness You Reap Un-Forgiveness—Even From God!

Now Isaac Is a Prime Example of Practicing Forgiveness! During a drought he dug wells that his enemies moved in and claimed. But Instead of Retaliating, He Moved On and Dug New Ones! As a result God Filled Isaac’s Empty Wells and Promised to Bless Him, and His Children Too! (Genesis. 26:22-23). Likewise, when you determine Not to Retaliate, He’ll determine to Restore! He’ll Fill the Emptiness in Your Life, When You Forgive Those Who Have Hurt You and like Isaac, Keep Moving Forward!

Listen: I don’t speak this to you out of textbook theology, but out of Life Experience. I have had my fair share of Judases in my life. I have been lied upon by people I loved, people I took as family, shared the same cup and sometimes roof with, I have been betrayed by people I raised, trained, people I called friends. By no means do I seek to minimize anyone’s hurt or pain. But I Know First Hand What it’s Like to Carry a Dead Man and His Deeds Year In and Year Out! Like a glass of water, it didn’t seem all that heavy to begin with…But as the Years Went On, and I Never Unloaded My Burden, it Became Heavier and Heavier. “…heartache crushes the spirit.” (Proverbs 15:13 New International Version). “…gloom and doom leave you bone-tired.” (Proverbs 17:22 The Message Bible). As true as those scriptures are, when I begin to minister about the freedom of forgiveness, it is then that my shackles begin to loosen and fall off and revival floods my soul. I share this testimony with you because far too many, Christians, are sitting in the Sanctuary Suffering In Silence over things that happened when they were Six or Sixteen and now at Sixty, They Still Have Not Let It Go! We Cannot Preach a Liberating Gospel While Bound By Un-Forgiveness Ourselves! Understand: Somebody, Somewhere Needs a “WHOLE” YOU to Minister to Their “Broken Fragments.”

The next time un-forgiveness rears its ugly head, remember these few Scriptures:

“In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You Can’t Get Forgiveness From God, for instance, Without Also Forgiving Others. If You Refuse to Do Your Part, You Cut Yourself Off From God’s Part.” (Matthew 6:14 The Message Bible).

“Be alert. If you see your friend going wrong, correct him. If he responds, Forgive Him. Even if it’s personal against you and repeated seven times through the day, and seven times he says, ‘I’m sorry, I won’t do it again,’ Forgive Him.” (Luke 17:3 The Message Bible).

“Now, regarding the one who started all this—the person in question who caused all this pain—…What the majority of you agreed to as punishment is punishment enough. Now Is the Time to Forgive This Man and Help Him Back On His Feet. If All You Do Is Pour On the Guilt, You Could Very Well Drown Him In It. My Counsel Now Is to Pour On the Love.” (2 Corinthians 2:5 The Message Bible).

“…If someone falls into sin, Forgivingly Restore Him, Saving Your Critical Comments For Yourself. You Might Be Needing Forgiveness Before the Day’s Out. Stoop Down and Reach Out to Those Who Are Oppressed. Share Their Burdens, and So Complete Christ’s Law. If You Think You Are Too Good For That, You Are Badly Deceived.” (Galatians 6:1-3 The Message Bible).

“Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive One Another as Quickly and Thoroughly as God In Christ Forgave You.” (Ephesians 4:31 The Message Bible).

If You Don’t Sow Forgiveness, You Don’t Reap Forgiveness! Let It Go Today, For Real and For Good!

Never forget, You are in the Refiner's Hands !!

I Love You
Jay Ikwan , Snr.

My life assignment is to help you become a person of class in Competence, Character & full of God;s divine presence. Teaching you all that concerns life and godliness. This I do, through the ministry "The Refiner's House International".