Wednesday, October 19, 2016

What To Do, When It Just Isn't Happening For You ! ⚔️

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Saturday, September 3, 2016

Music: Jay Ikwan - Breaking Free [Official Video]

We're finally here, thank you for being patient. I hope you enjoy the music and break free in your area, that's all I've ever wanted. Enjoy and remember. It is more than music ! Thank you again.
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Thursday, June 16, 2016

Dealing With Bitterness and Unresolved Emotional Wounds


No one wants to be bitter.  It sneaks up on us.  Bitterness is unforgiveness fermented.    The more we hold onto past hurts the more we become drunk on our pain and the experience can rob us of the joy we can find in anything. Bitterness occurs when we feel someone has taken something from us that we are powerless to get back.  We hold on to the hurt in an attempt to remind ourselves and others of the injustice we’ve experienced in the hopes that someone will save us and restore what we’ve lost.  Unfortunately, bitterness only makes our sense of the injustice grow.  It does nothing to heal the wound caused by the injustice.  In fact, it causes the wound to become infected with anger.

Bitterness:  Wrath’s Little Sister

Bitterness is wrath’s little sister.  Where anger can be just and moral if it propels us to seek solutions for the wrongs we have experienced or witness, wrath is a deadly sin because it becomes anger that feeds on itself and adds to wreckage caused by the original wound.  Bitterness does this too, but instead of burning down the house with everything we value still inside, bitterness is quieter, slowly poisoning our life until we lose it one joy at a time.

Here are some things you can do to begin to overcome bitterness.

1.  Forgive

Forgiveness does not mean pretending everything is “OK.”  It doesn’t mean forgetting the hurt either.  According to St. Augustine, forgiveness is simply the act of surrendering our desire for revenge; that is, our desire to hurt someone for having hurt us.   Forgiveness is the gift we give ourselves that enables us to stop picking at the scab and start making a plan for healing.

2. Make a plan

Forgiveness allows you to free up the energy you need to begin healing the wound. If the person who hurt you is willing to work with you, begin mapping out exactly what changes or effort you would need to see from that person to let you know that it is safe to reconcile.  If you are on your own, focus your energy on making a plan for how will you strive to regain as much of what was lost/taken from you as possible.  The more you strive to find alternative ways to recoup your losses, the less bitter you will feel even if the hurt persists.   It can be tempting to give into feelings that “there’s nothing I can do”   but resist the temptation.  In fact, if you feel this way and can’t think of solutions, talk to a professional to check your math before deciding that you just need to grieve your loss.  If, after consultation, you find that there really is nothing you can do to reclaim what was lost or taken from you, focus your energy on developing new goals that will help you reconstruct a compelling future.  The book, The Life God Wants You to Have:  Discovering the Divine Plan When Human Plans Fail can be a tremendous help for figuring out what God is calling you to work toward in the next chapter of your life.

3.  Stop Dwelling and Retelling

When we are hurt, we have a tendency to turn the painful events over and over in our head or tell anyone who will listen about our pain–even over and over again.  It is fine to talk to people we think can help us heal the hurt, facilitate reconciliation or help us rebuild our lives, but other than that, we should do what we can to stop dwelling on the story of our injury ourselves and stop speaking of it so freely to others.  When we are tempted to “dwell or retell” the best course of action is to refocus on what we can do–TODAY–to take at least some small step toward refining or actualizing the plan we’ve developed in Step 2.  The more you are focused on solutions, the less you will experience the sense of powerlessness that comes from ruminating on the hurt

4.  Seek Grace

It can be next to impossible to heal some wounds without God’s grace.  Bitterness causes us to shun God’s grace in favor of obsessing over the wound.  If you are holding on to bitterness I encourage you to take it to confession.  Please don’t be insulted by the suggestion.  I know that you are the victim and you have a right to your pain.  Still, holding on to anything except God’s love, mercy and healing grace separates from God and the life he wants us to have. Confession can open your heart to receive the healing that God wants to give you.   It can help you surrender the pain and powerlessness and begin to discover new options.  Stop hoarding your hurt.  Make your desire for healing official by taking your tendency to dwell in the powerlessness to the confessional and seek the grace to leave it there.

5.  When All Has Failed, Then Seek Professional Help

If the bitterness won’t let go even after you’ve tried all of the above, it’s time to seek professional help.  Working with a professional can help you see possibilities that your pain has blinded you to and give you new tools to heal the wounds that are holding you back.   If you have a faithful professional in your area that you have worked with before, it may be time to reconnect.  If not, I would invite you to contact me through the The Classic Life Institute to learn more about this. Trust me when I say I have been there and I know what it feels like.  Healing is possible with the right resources.

Hebrews 12:5 says, “See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.”  You don’t have to be bitter or consumed by feelings of powerlessness and sadness.  Take action today to cooperate with the grace that God is giving you to break free of the bonds of bitterness.  You can discover that with God’s help, there is so much more to life than pain.

Never Forget, You are in the Refiner's Hands !!

I Love You

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Thursday, June 9, 2016

UNLEARN in-order to RELEARN - Apostle J D Kosita-Madu

One of the most difficult things in life is to "unlearn" in order to "relearn" so as to progress.

About thirteen or more years ago, within two days Tobi Adegoke taught me the basic chords on a piano. I learned quickly to play on C, F and A but for some reason, I couldn't grasp how to recognize the key I wanted to play on without transposing.

Our lessons became "epileptic" (my fault entirely), and before I realized it, my teacher had to leave for South Africa to study.
So, I got comfortable playing basic chords on transpose, even writing and turning out hit songs playing that way.
Time has elapsed, I have tried to build on the little I know but whenever I hit a brick wall, I quickly resort to transposing.

Transposing is a function that allows a performer to quickly change the home key of a keyboard at the press of a button. Not a very professional way of doing things.

I have sought help but two factors get in the way. No one has been able to teach it so easily like my first teacher and I just can't get transposing out of my system.
As at this moment, I am still there and it saddens me that I cannot strike those chords and notes I hear in my head.

So, I decided to ask my new keyboardist in Church to help teach me (yes I am paying)... We have just had our first session and he asked me to play all that I know...I did and after a few minutes of thinking he says to me "Papa, you have to unlearn all you think you know. All you need to retain are those basics but from this moment Sir, FORGET that the transpose function exists".

Well, the suggestion is daunting... How will I survive without transposing? My new teacher doesn't want to hear "trans" not to talk of "posing". I my playing days are over...or at least for some time I CANNOT POSE for those who don't know anything about my deficiency but THINK that I am a guru.

I sit right now in my study thinking how many of us need to unlearn that which we KNOW about walking with God.

We need to unlearn the doctrines and practices that have characterized our walk all these years.
We need to unlearn the interpretation of many scriptures that we have run with for years.

Some of us have gotten to that point where we know that though onlookers may think we have it all together like my wife thinks I am a wonderful keyboardist, but we know that there is something more out there. We know we haven't scratched the surface...We have been " transposing" all this while.

Hebrews 5:12-14
“For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you again the basic principles of the oracles of God. You need milk, not solid food, for everyone who lives on milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness, since he is a child. But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil."

It is time to seek help. Listen, I play enough to hold down a one hour praise and worship session in my local assembly but I KNOW that I dare not mount the keyboard at a major concert and I really would love to.

I also have plans of buying a grand piano which I intend to play when leading worship myself at Church, but grand pianos do not have the transpose function. It is for MATURED "players".
This is why thirteen years after my first lessons, I seek to mature.

Apart from getting myself a new teacher, I have rediscovered all the books and manuals I bought at the recommendation of my first teacher which I must confess, I never read beyond when he left the country.

My message is simple: If you have noticed that you're not satisfied with how things are, seek change. Seek growth by looking for teachers to move you from the LAW to GRACE.
More importantly, be WILLING to UNLEARN. Your initial teachers and influences were not wrong but they taught you according to your WILLINGNESS and CAPACITY to grasp at that time.

No matter how much you think you know, you can still unlearn some things in order to relearn and grow. Seek teachers to HELP you GROW from Grace to Grace.

Ephesians 4:11-14
“And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, so that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes."

Anointed teachers will help us STOP TRANSPOSING in spiritual matters and GROW UP.
Eph 4:14 That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;

I am off to practice without transposing.

Apostle J D Kosita-Madu.

JD Kosita-Madu is the senior Pastor & Founder of Trinity Worship Centre International also known as TWCI Beautiful Life Community located at 9a Geodetic Road, beside Shell Rumuobiokani, River State, Nigeria. He is a prolific Pastor and Apostle of Jesus Christ and also serves as the rector of Sterling Faith School Of Ministry And Christian leadership.

He is married to Pastor Evelyn Kosita-madu and together they are sold out for Christ.

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